Margaret Cho doesn’t give a shit. She says what she thinks and means what she says, and fuck you to anyone who has a problem with that. The Drop Dead Diva star just wrapped her critically acclaimed Mother tour, has a new Monsters of Talk podcast with comedian Jim Short and is working on a new album. We caught up with the filthy funny lady to gab about how she juggles both men and women, why people won’t stop peeing on her and John Travolta’s chapped asshole.
HUSTLER: When did you come out as bisexual?
MARGARET CHO: I think I’ve been openly bisexual my whole life. When I was younger, I identified more as a lesbian, and certainly in the coming-out process, which was really early on, I identified more as gay. I realized later I actually had a lot of attraction to men, and I had a lot of great relationships with men that I couldn’t deny. I felt oddly in the closet within the gay community because I was bisexual.
Now I feel much more like, okay, this is closer to my truth. Although bisexuality doesn’t really exactly cover it either because I’m attracted to and have relationships with transgendered people who don’t define as either male or female. I don’t think that there are only two distinct places in the gender spectrum. There’s a lot of different places we can be.
Did you get a lot of shit from the gay community?
No, but if you’re bisexual, they think that you’re not really out or that you’re somehow not really in. And then it’s kind of weird because women are often accepted much more in bisexuality than men. Even though there’s a B [in LGBT, for Lesbian Gay Bisexual and Transgender], it’s often quite a silent faction. I want to honor who I am truly, but I think queer is probably the more socially acceptable term for everything. Male bisexuals have a stigma that they’re not exactly out. I don’t think that’s fair because I’ve known and been with quite a few male bisexuals. Oftentimes they just identify as straight because it’s too hard. They feel really disconnected and shunned.