Never mind the dating apps; according to a recent study, most young women say that they’re open to being asked out face to face—but there’s a right way and wrong way to do it.
There was a time when a man had no choice but to ask a woman out in person—a feat that most guys regarded with apprehension. He had to summon the courage to make his approach, asking if she’d like to join him for a burger and a movie or whatever other recreational occasion spilled from his nerve-wrecked lips. And what if she said no? The crushing, debilitating, almost certain life-altering humiliation would be enough to drive him to join a monastery. Rejection, though, was, at times, the best-case scenario. Because if she said yes, well, that meant days of frayed nerves building up to the momentous event and even more pressure to ensure a good impression was made, so she’d want to see him again. It was a delicate, often brutal dance. And yet, in a way, it was glorious.
At some point, however, dating changed. The technological advancements made by the big brains in Silicon Valley have made it so that all a guy has to do is create a profile on a dating app, pen a short, semi-clever bio, post a few flattering photos standing next to a sports car he doesn’t own and stand by, waiting to beat the pussy off with a stick. Optimistically speaking, tech developments have simplified meeting like-minded people. On the other hand, it has nearly crippled face-to-face engagements, leaving most people standing in a puddle of drool when forced to speak to someone in public. It has even come at a cost to romance. A study from Date Psychology found that more than 45% of men have never asked a woman out on a date in person, citing fear of rejection and other social consequences as the root of their trepidation.
“I think asking someone out in person is considered weird. It’s risky, if you ask me.”
