Yes, it’s true that humans aren’t hardwired for monogamy, but even if you or your partner have a history of infidelity, it doesn’t spell doom for your relationship.
At some point, you’re bound to date someone who casually drops the bomb that they’ve cheated before, like they’re trying to convince a prospective new employer to give them a job even though they fucked over their last boss. They swear they learned a lot from the experience and would never do that again. Their little confession usually comes during the early stages of the relationship, when a couple attempts to get to know each other better by revealing their body count, failed engagements and why every past relationship turned into a flaming shitshow. Cheating is often cited as one of the top reasons people say things didn’t work out—but don’t worry, they’ll assure you, this time is different. Last time, they had a “real reason” for fucking around on their partner: They weren’t happy. They felt trapped. Their ex was abusive or gone all the time. But you? Oh, no, you’re special. You could never push them into slobbing the knob of another.
The thing is, should you believe them?
That, my friends, is the million-dollar question. Everyone knows the old saying: once a cheater, always a cheater. The logic is simple. If someone was shady enough to break the trust of their last partner, what makes you think they’ve magically evolved into a beacon of loyalty?
“There is not a singular root cause of infidelity. There are varied theories as to why it happens.”
