How a woman refers to her intimate parts can say a lot about how she might perform in bed—so listen up!
Sit across from a woman on a first date, and it’s natural to ask about her favorite music, movies or books—you know, safe topics designed to reveal who she is before the entrées hit the table and you splurge for a second bottle of wine. But for all the centuries of dating rituals, there’s never been a polite way to gauge how adventurous she might be in the sack without crossing a line—except, according to a new study, there just might be. Yep, forget inquiring about her zodiac sign or asking her to take a Myers-Briggs test. If you really want to know whether she’s a sexual free spirit or more of a missionary-only traditionalist, all you have to do is ask the nice lady what she calls her vagina.
Sure, it might seem wildly inappropriate to lean across the table while she’s working through her half-priced appetizers and ask, “So, are you more of a ‘front butt’ or ‘boner garage’ kind of girl?” But the recent study, published in Sex Roles, suggests that perhaps this line of questioning might not be as absurd as it sounds. Okay, so researchers didn’t expressly suggest that men should start interrogating women about their punani pet names, but the findings make a pretty compelling case. They found that women who use cutesy, juvenile terms like “privates” tend to have lower body confidence and less sexual satisfaction, while those who use more creative or empowered monikers, like “pussy,” are sexually enjoying themselves a lot more.
“Language has always reflected how we relate to our bodies and our sexuality. The words women use to describe their genitals can reveal subtle but powerful truths about comfort, shame and sexual confidence.”
