You’re curious. You’ve seen Fifty Shades of Grey, or perhaps you’re simply bored with your vanilla sex life. Whatever your reason, you’ve decided that visiting a dominatrix will allow your inner kink to flourish or fulfill a fantasy. Of course, you’re nervous to enter this alternative world and let a domme take control and crack the whip. But deep down something says you’ll enjoy the experience.
To help you with your first visit, we’ve put together a guide for those who want to sample tough love. We spoke with world-renowned rigger and AVN Hall of Fame director/dominatrix Julie Simone (Mistress Simone) and award-winning indie adult star and selfmade entrepreneur Larkin Love (Mistress Larkin). Both have years of experience and are respected as two of the best dommes out there.
WHAT TYPE OF MEN GO TO A DOMINATRIX
Often powerful men who enjoy control in their daily lives become the clients of dominatrices. Our two experts tells us that high-power executives and higher-ups in the military account for the majority of the men who visit them, but clients come from all walks of life. Mistress Simone explains that men in power can find it difficult to completely let go, so she “reminds them that they came to me because they wanted a certain type of experience. They trust me and my expertise to give them what they want and so desperately need. Sometimes I’ll have them repeat over and over again ‘I’m not in control anymore’ until they can relax and let their journey into submission begin.”
Mistress Larkin’s clientele includes two A-list Hollywood directors, a Fortune 500 CEO, a handful of congressmen, doctors, lawyers and executives. Roughly one-third of her clients are average guys who are “just kinky and love the kind of experience” she provides. But no matter what their standing in life, she says, “They all check it at the door when it’s time to play. My house, my rules.”
WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR?