Is your sex drive not lining up with your partner’s level of desire? Don’t despair; there are ways to reach a carnal common ground.
If ever there was definitive proof that there is no god, it’s that men and women seldom seem to be on the same page when it comes to sex. Either the man wants it constantly and the woman doesn’t, or she’s teetering on nymphomania, and the poor bastard can’t keep up (or perhaps even get it up). Rarely are the two in perfect porking unison. It’s called having mismatched libidos, and it is arguably one of the main reasons couples are at each other’s throats as the relationship progresses from the honeymoon phase to the humdrum of reality. “My girlfriend and I have lived together for five years, and there have been some occasions where one or the other has to ask the other one why we’re not fucking anymore,” Leland, 28, tells HUSTLERMagazine.com, adding that these confrontations have led to arguments.
Causing even further stress, a lot of times couples think having mismatched libidos means that they’re doomed for divorce court and the ass would be greener with someone else. Which isn’t necessarily the case. Mismatched libidos are a common problem for many couples, but it doesn’t have to be a relationship-killer. “I would like to have it once a day, but he’s good with once a week,” a woman named Jean tells us. When asked whether this discrepancy makes it difficult to keep the relationship healthy, Jean says that it’s the least of their worries. “No, we’re still happy. I can take care of myself,” she explains. “We hang out all the time and have fun. I think you just have to learn to manage the sex thing.”
“My girlfriend and I have lived together for five years, and there have been some occasions where one or the other has to ask the other one why we’re not fucking anymore.”
Leland
If every couple with mismatched libidos jumped ship, there would likely be no more long-term relationships left in the world. Arguments over desire discrepancy are commonplace for most couples, right alongside disputes over which one snores too much or fails to take out the garbage. It’s a logistical issue at its core, and can be fixed. “Having different levels of sexual desire does not always mean that there is something wrong with one or both partners,” Dr. Rachel Needle, licensed psychologist and the co-director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes, tells HUSTLERMagazine.com.
