How to share your dirtiest sexual desires with your partner—and maybe even make them a reality.
Whether you’ve been with your significant other for years or only recently started dating, you probably have at least one fantasy that you haven’t told your partner about. Maybe you’re embarrassed. Maybe you’re worried about how they will react. Maybe you didn’t even know it was something you were into until recently. So what now? Do you just keep it to yourself, allowing it to languish away in your spank bank in perpetuity?
Turning a fantasy into a reality is one of the most satisfying sexual adventures you can embark on, as soon as you make sure that your partner is along for the ride.
I mean, you could keep your fantasy tucked away in the realm of the theoretical. But where’s the fun in that? Turning a fantasy into a reality is one of the most satisfying sexual adventures you can embark on, as soon as you make sure that your partner is along for the ride. Not all fantasies can become reality, of course, but even celebrity orgies or logistical nightmares can be translated into really hot dirty talk or role play, if you know how to broach the subject.
As a sex coach, the question I get asked most frequently is some variation of, “Is this normal?” And 99 times out of 100, the answer is, “Yes.” So if you’re feeling some weirdness or any degree of shame around your dirtiest fantasies, just remember this: All sexual activities between consenting adults are normal. (And the corollary: you’re not the only one! As the Rule 34 internet meme declares, no matter what the topic, “there is porn of it.”)