Every once in a while a Buzzfeed list will hit a little differently. This September we learned what women (hetero-cisgender) wished men knew about sex so that they didn’t have to keep reminding them all the time (ouch, but also true). And it’s shocking—appalling even—how men routinely fail to grasp even the most basic items on that list, from having lube handy to the fundamental importance of foreplay.
To hammer the point home, so to speak, we polled our favorite performers and sex workers for their hot takes. This is Ph.D.-level insight here, so please take note.