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Along Came Poly

[…] the confines of monogamy is wrong. “I think that we’re culturally conditioned toward monogamy. But I don’t think we’re hardwired for it,” says sex coach and polyamorist Leigh Montavon. “Everything in the world at large is set up to benefit monogamous people—there is one person out there for you, and when you find that person, […] ...

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Inside a Commercial Dungeon

[…] the gang back together to talk about our time at the dungeon, our most memorable experiences and some common misperceptions about this particular type of sex work. Leigh Montavon / Photo by Paige Zangoglia LEIGH MONTAVON: What drew you to working at a dungeon in the first place? SWITCH WICKED: I started off playing in […] ...

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Watch It! The Art of Consensual Voyeurism

[…] you’re not part of a community that could help facilitate this ultra-sexy situation? The prospect of initiating such a specific scenario may seem daunting, but sex coach Leigh Montavon is here to shepherd you along the way. Allow Montavon to pull back the curtain on the art of consensual voyeurism. HUSTLERMagazine.com: If your thing is […] ...

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Hot Mess: A Guide to Sploshing

[…] “There is an expectation that adults should be clean and responsible, and that what we do for fun should fit into an ‘acceptable’ category,” explains sex coach Leigh Montavon. “WAM is the antithesis of that. Instead, it provides the opportunity to let go, to joyfully celebrate behaving outside of the norm and not worrying about […] ...

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Gender Nonconformity and You

[…] can get easier to view that simply as exploration, rather than anything reflective of your gender. Because at the end of the day, knowing that we have freedom of expression and supporting that in others is a really great thing. Leigh Montavon is a sex coach and clinical sexologist. Follow Leigh on Twitter and Instagram @sexcoachleigh....

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Relationship Red and Green Flags

[…] given enough weight to the importance of green flags. There’s always time! If you are in an abusive situation, call 1-800-799-SAFE at any time for confidential support. You don’t have to go through it alone. Leigh Montavon is a sex coach and clinical sexologist. Follow Leigh on Twitter and Instagram @sexcoachleigh. relationship red and green flags...

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Getting Your Groove Back

[…] and that the decrease you are experiencing doesn’t have to be permanent. It might take some effort on your part, but I assure you, that effort will be fruitful. So get out there and get your groove back—you’ve got this! Leigh Montavon is a sex coach and clinical sexologist. Follow Leigh on X and Instagram @sexcoachleigh....

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Getting Past Ghosting

[…] how you would like to be communicated with. What do you wish someone would say to you? How would you like to be let down easily? What does clarity look like to you? That’s an excellent place to start. Leigh Montavon is a sex coach and clinical sexologist. Follow Leigh on Twitter and Instagram @sexcoachleigh. ghosting...

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The ABCs of FWB

[…] you feel a flirty connection to who is otherwise unattached, there’s nothing wrong with asking. Be clear and specific, and you just might find someone who will respond to your “You up?” texts with a “hell yeah!” Leigh Montavon is a sex coach and clinical sexologist. Follow Leigh on Twitter and Instagram @sexcoachleigh. friends with benefits...

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Mindful Masturbation

[…] through mindful masturbation, pick a day. Put it on the calendar. Decide to focus on one thing at a time: slowing down, trying something new, learning your turn-ons, or choosing your porn. Prioritize your pleasure, and see what happens next. Leigh Montavon is a sex coach and clinical sexologist. Follow Leigh on Twitter and Instagram @sexcoachleigh....

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Whoa, Mama! Sex and Pregnancy

[…] adapt and communicate are your greatest assets here. Be patient and think of the big picture, and don’t be afraid to reach out to a professional if you’re finding it too challenging to reconnect. And hey—congratulations! You’re gonna be great. Leigh Montavon is a sex coach and clinical sexologist. Follow Leigh on Twitter and Instagram @sexcoachleigh....

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Returning to Monogamy

[…] Whether you consider yourself to be monogamous, ambiamorous (aka, the pansexuality of relationship styles), or you eschew labels all together, you know more about yourself than you did before. And with any luck, that self-knowledge will just continue to grow. Leigh Montavon is a sex coach and clinical sexologist. Follow Leigh on Twitter and Instagram @sexcoachleigh....

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Negotiating Your Kink Scene

[…] anything kinky helped us reconnect and ease our way into things. And we learned more about each other in the process.” Take your time, make it fun, and you’ll be on your way to more kinky adventures in no time. Leigh Montavon is a sex coach and clinical sexologist. Follow Leigh on Twitter and Instagram @sexcoachleigh....

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Shacking Up: A Survival Guide

[…] for your new shared space. Give your WiFi network a goofy name. Install some under-the-bed restraints. Invite your friends over for a housewarming party and ask them to help you stock the bar or the spice cabinet. Welcome home. Leigh Montavon is a sex coach and clinical sexologist. Follow Leigh on Twitter and Instagram @sexcoachleigh. cohabitation...

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Close Together, Miles Apart

[…] regale each other with tales of your dates and sexual exploits. Keep it playful, varied and communicative, and the time between visits will feel as much like a positive part of the relationship as the times together. Leigh Montavon is a sex coach and clinical sexologist. Follow Leigh on Twitter and Instagram @sexcoachleigh. long distance relationships...

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The Ins and Outs of Role Play

[…] When it comes to role play, the possibilities really are endless. (I didn’t even mention priest and nun, or doctor and patient!) All you need are communication, trust, and a willingness to step outside your comfort zone. You’ve got this! Leigh Montavon is a sex coach and clinical sexologist. Follow Leigh on Twitter and Instagram @sexcoachleigh....

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Polyamorous Breakups

[…] the healthier choice for everyone involved. Ending a relationship is never easy, whether you’re polyamorous, monogamous or anywhere in between. But if you approach it with kindness for everyone involved—including yourself—it becomes much more manageable. Onward and upward! Leigh Montavon is a sex coach and clinical sexologist. Follow Leigh on Twitter and Instagram @sexcoachleigh. polyamorous breakups...

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Hey, Jealousy—Get Lost!

[…] goal isn’t to never have a jealous thought again, but instead to accept jealousy as an occasional feeling. It might be trying to tell you something, but it doesn’t have to control your life. You’ve got this! Leigh Montavon is a sex coach and clinical sexologist. Follow Leigh on X (formerly Twitter) and Instagram @sexcoachleigh. jealousy...

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Dating Profile Do’s and Don’ts

[…] your profile) have had a refresher. It might not be as ideal as a meet-cute in the produce aisle, but at least we’re past the days of picture-free newspaper ads and VHS dating tapes. You’ve got this! Leigh Montavon is a sex coach and clinical sexologist. Follow Leigh on Twitter and Instagram @sexcoachleigh. online dating profiles...

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The Perks of Being a Unicorn

[…] impossible for anybody to live up to expectations. , the only intention I have is to be present and in my body, to stay in consent, and to enjoy the ride.” So grow that horn and get to it, baby! Leigh Montavon is a sex coach and clinical sexologist. Follow Leigh on Twitter and Instagram @sexcoachleigh....

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Managing Conflict: A Relationship Guide

[…] emotional and romantic life. And if you find that you can’t break the cycle of conflict, there’s no shame in calling in the professionals. Therapists and coaches can help you develop the tools you need to get back on track. Leigh Montavon is a sex coach and clinical sexologist. Follow Leigh on Twitter and Instagram @sexcoachleigh....

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Surviving Infidelity

[…] treat yourself with the same compassion that you have for others. Whatever side you’re on, you’re deserving of love and support, and no matter what happens with your relationship, there’s a path back to personal happiness. You can do this. Leigh Montavon is a sex coach and clinical sexologist. Follow Leigh on Twitter and Instagram @sexcoachleigh....

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In the Flesh

[…] of seduction,” who “eat foods known for their aphrodisiac qualities,” according to site spokesperson Jessica Leoni. In need of some levelheaded insight, we turned to sex coach Leigh Montavon for a dose of common sense. Behold: “The number-one rule of statistics is that correlation does not equal causation! Do I think that being vegan makes […] ...

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Don’t Blow It! Overcoming Early Ejaculation

[…] mean you always should. A spontaneous quickie in a surprising location might be just want you need to give your sex life a jump-start. As long as you’re communicating and having fun, there’s no wrong way to get it on. Leigh Montavon is a sex coach and clinical sexologist. Follow Leigh on Twitter and Instagram @sexcoachleigh....

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Nonmonogamy: A Relationship Guide

[…] the same relationship scripts that most of us grow up with. But it can also be exciting, surprising and deeply fulfilling. Remember to be gentle with yourself, and your partner, as you figure out the best ways to move forward. Leigh Montavon is a sex coach and clinical sexologist. Follow Leigh on Twitter and Instagram @sexcoachleigh....

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Managing Mismatched Sex Drives

[…] have to be. But I also want to empower people to prioritize their sexual happiness. If your partner refuses to talk about your sexual relationship or listen to your needs, it’s okay to make choices that support your entire self! Leigh Montavon is a sex coach and clinical sexologist. Follow Leigh on Twitter and Instagram @sexcoachleigh....

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Fantasy Fulfillment for Couples

[…] what works for you—a shared list, a movie, or a jump-start to your dirty talk—hopefully this is only the beginning of a new sexual adventure with your partner. And who knows? Once you start sharing your fantasies, it might be just the push they need to start telling you theirs. Follow Leigh Montavon on Twitter @sexcoachleigh....

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The Ins and Outs of Impact Play

[…] a little imagination (or maybe an old Halloween costume), you can step into whatever character you want to play. And that brings us back to the key word in all kinky endeavors: play. When it comes to impact play, keep it safe, keep it communicative, and absolutely keep it playful! Follow Leigh Montavon on Twitter @sexcoachleigh....

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Get Some Fucking Help!

[…] opportunity to take a deep breath and relinquish control. The state of the world can be overwhelming, especially these days, but prioritizing your sexual health and happiness is excellent self-care at any time. Luckily, there are plenty of professionals who can assist you on your journey to an amazing sex life. Follow Leigh Montavon: Twitter @sexcoachleigh....

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Polyamory Terms: A Primer

[…] of made-up words, but at the end of the day, all words are made up. So choose the ones that work for you and your people, and find new ones when necessary. Just leave unicorn hunting to the fairy tales. Leigh Montavon is a sex coach and clinical sexologist. Follow her on Instagram and Twitter @sexcoachleigh. ...

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